“The individual who wants to reach the top in business must appreciate the might and force of habit. He must be quick to break those habits that can break him-and hasten to adopt those practices that will become the habits that help him achieve the success he desires.”

—J. PAUL GETTY

All leaders have willingness to discipline themselves to accept personal responsibility. I believe each of us is a leader even to our own body, mind, and emotion. Accepting personal responsibility in your life is essential to success, health, happiness and personal leadership. It’s the hardest discipline to practice but no success is possible without it.

Lots of people attempt to avoid accept responsibility for things in life that make them unhappy. They project it to other people, government, institution, organization and this thing will weaken their character, it will distort cause and effect and in the end it will lead to endless excuses.

You must keep in mind that nothing else is going to change if you don’t change. No one will do it for you. You are responsible for your life and everything that happened to you. Don’t blame your difficult childhood or mistake that you have done in the past because the future is the product of now. Keep in mind that it’s your life and if you don’t do something to change it, it will go on like this.

Accept responsibility for doing your job better than doing only the minimum that is necessary to avoid getting fired. Accept responsibility for your finances, health and also your future.

You can go to local bookstore and read anything you need. Fill your mind with lessons, ideas or information that can help you. Dedicate yourself on continuous learning and self-improvement in every way possible.

Responsibility and Emotions

80percent of the population never accept complete responsibility for their lives. That’s why our society is full of excuses, complain, and criticize. People blaming others because of unhappiness in their lives. This is a destructive mind because it sabotage all hopes and happiness that later can come in their life.

But one of the great discovery is all negative emotions especially anger depend their existence on your ability to blame someone or something else for something in life that you are not happy about.

It takes tremendous self-discipline for you to accept complete responsibility for everything you are, everything you become and everything that happens to you. Even if you’re not directly responsible for something that happens, like Tsunami, you are always responsible for your responses, for what you do and say from that moment forward.

People who develop the habit of blaming often become angry at things. It’s a way to blame objects when they do not perform as expected or work perfectly. People often kick a car that they are mad at or tools they are using.

The most effective and fastest way to get rid of negative emotions is to say “I’m responsible”. Does this whenever you feel angry or whatever negative reaction of any kind.

Our mind can hold only one thought at a time, when you deliberately choose the positive thought “I’m responsible” you cancel out any other thought or emotion at that moment.

In Alcoholic Anonymous, people who are having problems with drinking attend meetings with others who on the same situation. They found out that no individual will have progress if they’re not accepting responsibility of their drinking problem.

It also applied in the area of financial. Once you say that you’re responsible for your financial life you are in the driver’s seat. It’s only when you accept responsibility for your income (who chose to accept the job?), your bills (who spent the money that put you in debt problem?), investment (who made the decisions?).

Relationship between Personal Control and Emotions

There’s a direct relationship between the amounts of personal control you have over your life with the acceptance of responsibility. The amount of control you have also leaded to the amount of positive feelings you experienced.

You will feel strong, powerful and purposeful when you accept responsibility. Negative emotions rob your happiness and contentment but you can take it back with accepting responsibilities.

From now on every time you feel negative emotion say “I’m Responsible” then look into situation to find the reason why you are responsible for what is going on or what happened.

It’s your choice to use your mind whether you going to use it to blame other people for the things you are not happy about, or to find reasons why you are responsible then taking action to solve it. You can make progress or make excuses. Your mind is like a double edged sword.

Even if your car is being damaged in the parking lot while you are at the office. It’s not your fault it’s happen, but you are responsible for your response. You can search another area of parking, or take a bus, or find another way to resolve it.

Action to take responsibility of your emotions

Complete responsibility for the situation is a mark of the leader and all great person. You take responsibility for your life by resolving that you will not become upset and angry about something you cannot affect or change (example: weather). If some experiences in the past make you angry and unhappy you can say to yourself “What cannot be cured must be endured” then let it go and begin thinking about your goals and your potential future. Just like Helen Keller said “When you turn toward the sunshine, the shadows fall behind you”.

Let’s practice with taking responsibility for your emotions. The way to do this is by accepting 100 percent responsibility for yourself and your responses to everything that happens to you. Take responsibility on whatever feelings you may have. Don’t slip on the temptation of making excuses, complain, criticize or blame other people or anything else. Say “I’m Responsible” and then take action of something.

Begin to accept responsibility and then take action in the direction of your goal is real antidote for anger and unhappiness. Start today to have a resolution that you are always in control of your feeling, thought and actions. Get busy to work on your goal so that you don’t have time to think about or express negative emotions to anyone for any reason.

I’ll see you at the top.

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